Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Thomas is Healed

We started this blog to share our journey to heal Thomas's heart.
His heart is now whole, and we must begin the process of healing our own broken hearts.


Dear Thomas,
You are now perfectly healed and safe in the arms of Jesus. 

You are so precious, and so loved.  We wanted you so badly, and were so excited for you.  We are so thankful for the fourteen days we had with you.  They were such a blessing....such a gift. You were such a little fighter.  You taught us to take nothing for granted.  You brought us to our knees in prayer and closer to God.  Those fourteen days were so hard, but so wonderful because they were with you.   We wouldn't trade them for anything.

You will never know pain or fear, and what you are experiencing now is more wonderful than we can imagine.   We are thankful for the promise that we will see you and hold you again in heaven.  

While our arms are empty, we know you are being held by someone who loves you more than we do.   Your daddy and I are being comforted by a God who knows what it is like to lose a son....only He gave His Son freely for us, and for you my sweet baby.

You were fearfully and wonderfully made, and God knew each of the days of your life before one of them came to be (Psalm 139:14, 16 NIV).  We are so thankful that God made you for us, and trusted you with us.  You touched more people in your two weeks than most people do in their whole lives.  We are so proud of you, and so proud to be your parents. We know that our suffering was not in vain.  Your precious life will live on in our hearts, and in the hearts of so many others. You are leaving quite a legacy.

Our lives will never be the same because of the time we spent with you, sweet Thomas. We miss you so much already.

We'll love you forever, we'll like you for always....as long as we're living, our baby you'll be!

I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.
(2 Timothy 4:7 NIV)

109 comments:

  1. At a time like this what does one say? I want to thank you for letting us know Thomas, his life did touch many...probably more than you will ever know. God be with you and you will continue to be in our prayers!

    With a heavy heart...
    Michele Reeves
    Simpsonville, SC

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  2. Melissa,
    Your faith is such an inspiration to me and so many others. You are right that Thomas has left a legacy and has touched more people in his short life than most people do in a long life-time. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss, and please know that I am praying constantly for you and TJ. Ps. 30:5 "Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning." I pray your night is short and the morning comes quickly.
    Love, Tabitha Randol

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  3. Thomas, know that you are loved, have been and are being prayed for every day and night and will truly be missed. Sleep well sweet baby. Much love, Kristi

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  4. May God bless and keep you at this difficult time. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
    Kris Tindol

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  5. Oh Melissa. I can hardly see for the tears overflowing my eyes. What a beautiful soul you have to be able to write this. You are so right; Thomas touched so many lives. Our friends and relatives prayerfully followed your story and were heartbroken when they heard that Thomas died. We will never have a Thanksgiving again without thinking of your sweet baby.
    May God comfort and abundantly bless you and T.J.
    Karen Gates

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  6. Dr. Behm I have no words to say that seem appropriate. Please know that I feel honored to have been able to follow Thomas' journey these past few weeks. I have offered prayers up constantly for Thomas, you, and TJ. I know he is in the arms of God and will forever be your guardian angel. I pray for your strength and faith in the coming days and months and just know we are thinking of you.

    "Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted." Matthew 5:4

    The Lewis Family - Lacy, Bill, Will, & Tallie

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  7. My prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. You have been so strong to share the story of your adorable son with everyone. May you find peace and comfort.

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  8. Sweet Thomas will always be in my heart. He was a tough little guy. He was so lucky to have you two as parents...even if only for a little while. You are forever in my prayers. I know Thomas is healthy now but it's so hard to fight back the tears. You two are so strong. Please know the Carver family is always thinking and praying for you. We love you Dr. Behm.

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  9. Melissa, this is one of the most beautiful things I've ever read. How you can compose a coherent sentence at this time is beyond me--you are truly an inspiration. You are right, Thomas has touched more people in two weeks than many do in a lifetime. I can only hope to leave half the legacy that he has.

    I was once told by a friend who lost a child decades ago that you never get over it but you learn to live with it. I know that one day your ability to live with such a loss will be an inspiration to others who will travel the same unfortunate path you've trodden.

    You are a wonderful mother and a remarkable person.

    Love,

    Ashley K.

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  10. Our hearts are so broken for you and the loss of your sweet precious boy. We are crying tears with you, praying for you as often as we think of you (which is all day long), and sending many hugs your way. We are so very proud of you and your faith through this journey with Thomas; what an amazing example you have been. He was so very blessed to have you two as parents. We love you guys so much and pray for peace to overwhelm you as you walk through this incredibly difficult time.
    "The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." Psalm 34:18
    Love,
    Chris and Rebecca Woodlief

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  11. Over the last two weeks I've read your blog several times a day and thought of you many more. Thomas' life and your strength and love are such an inspiration and lesson to me. I will hold him in my heart forever and now share your grief. I pray that your recovery is miraculous and that your faith stays strong.
    Laura

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  12. We will forever remember baby Thomas . Our hearts are with you, Alison Niebanck and Robin Ray

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  13. Melissa and TJ - Your grace during the last two weeks has been incredible. I have prayed for you, wept for you, been humbled by you. It can be so hard to try to understand God's ways, but you are so wise to know that He has healed Thomas in His way, even if it brings you great pain. I will continue to pray that He mend your broken hearts until you can hold your sweet baby again. Thank you for sharing with us. In his short life, Thomas has touched so many others... may we all be inspired to love more deeply and to treasure the little blessings because of him. May the grace and peace of our Lord, Jesus Christ, be with you always. Love, Gayle Bates

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  14. Thank you for sharing your heart, Melissa. For sharing your time with Thomas with us. You have been teaching me; your faith is inspirational. Praying that you and TJ do find comfort in Him, hope for the future, healing of your wounds. One step at a time. Praying for your heart, and all your family.

    Psalm 119:75-77
    I know, LORD, that your laws are righteous,
    and that in faithfulness you have afflicted me.
    May your unfailing love be my comfort,
    according to your promise to your servant.
    Let your compassion come to me that I may live,
    for your law is my delight

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  15. Dr. Behm,
    Thank you so much for allowing us to be a part of this journey with your family. Thomas would be so proud of how strong you have both been through all of this. He is resting with God and you will all be together again some day. You will have an angel forever watching over you in Thomas. Words cannot express the sorrow we feel for you both. Continued prayers for you all!!!!
    The Gongora family

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  16. What a beautiful letter to a beautiful son and what a God-honoring perspective you have -- even in the midst of tremendous sorrow and grief. What a blessing Thomas will always be to you. His life will forever mark yours, and you will continue to grow closer to God because of your precious son. And what a light Thomas is for Jesus. You are shining that light so brightly. It's truly beautiful to see. I am thanking God for Thomas's life and for the fullness of life he is now experiencing with Jesus. And I am praying for you like crazy.

    Kathryn Apinis

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  17. Melissa,
    As I have said previously, the grace that you have shown throughout the past couple of weeks has humbled me while inspiring me to shine for our Savior. Now more than ever, as you wrote such an eloquent post for Thomas, I see grace. I can't begin to imagine the emotions that you guys are dealing with but I am so thankful to know that God can calm those emotions and wrap His loving arms around you. As many others have written I know that God chose you and TJ as Thomas' parents and Thomas was blessed to have you. I'm sure you've heard the song but if not, when you get a moment listen to Laura Story's song "Blessings". Over the past two weeks every time I hear that song it has brought my thoughts to your precious family. Logan and I cried together this afternoon as we listened to it and prayed for you and TJ. When the song says "what if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise", as a believer I have to say that even when we don't see it, God is showing us mercy. I am proud to call you my sister in Christ and rejoice with you in God's promise of you holding Thomas again in Heaven. Love, Stephanie King (& Logan)

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  18. I am & will continue to pray for you & TJ. The great paradox of the Chrisitan life we lead is we can rejoice in Thomas's wholeness, but grieve for the hole he left in your lives. Been looking for the perfect verse. None seem quite appropriate. I keep coming back to 1 Thessalonians 4:13 & the assurance that we do not "grieve like the rest of men who have no hope." Cling to your Hope....

    Tracy Hays
    Simpsonville, SC

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  19. I do not know when I have been touched so deeply after reading your letter to Thomas. Your words are heartfelt and strengthening. They are beautiful, soul and spirit reaching words that could only be written by a heart filled with love for your little Thomas and the love of Christ, the foundation of your faith.
    You and your family continue to be in my prayers. You are an inspiration to anyone that has been blessed to know your story.
    May God comfort you and keep you, as only He can.

    Cynthia (Cindy) Howard

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  20. Melissa,

    What a beautiful letter to your sweet precious son. You are so correct in saying that he has touched so many lives in his short time here on earth. I have prayed for that sweet baby from the day that you shared your blog and I will continue to pray for you and your husband as your hearts heal. You are an AMAZING person and you have truly been an inspiration to me throughout all of this. Thank you for allowing us all to follow this journey with you and for letting us all be a part of Thomas's life. Much love and many prayers now and in the coming days ahead. May God wrap HIS loving arms around you and give you the strength that only HE can give you.

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  21. So sorry for you all. I know this may be too to hard to talk about, but what went wrong? I mean I read the whole blog , several times a day, and its just hard to wrap your head around. If you don't feel like sharing, I can completely understand, but for some reason this is hard for me & others to understand.

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  22. Oh how my heart aches for you, TJ and all of your family. I can hardly type for the tears are overflowing. Still I am comforted by the letter to your sweet baby boy. You will likely never know the lives that Thomas has touched as well as your strength and courage. Know that we will never be the same because of Thomas Behm.
    The Long Family

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  23. I came across your blog from another mother who has lost their precious child...and I am so, so sorry for your loss. Yesterday would have been my son's 2nd birthday...he died the day after he was born and my world has not been the same.

    I can say, though, that His Grace is Suffiecient. It may feel far some days, and you may wonder how you will get through the next breath, but two years later, I can honestly and truly say that when people ask how I've survived, it's so easy to say "God's Grace."

    Two songs come to mind...Natalie Grant's Held and JJ Heller's Your Hands. They both ring true--when the sacred is torn from our lives, we are held...in His hands...and never alone.

    God bless you. I will pray for you tonight and in days and weeks and to come as I know all too well the emotions you will be going through...but grateful for the promise of eternity and the Truth of knowing we are His and He is ours.
    Again, I am so sorry.

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  24. Dr. Behm,

    My heart is breaking for you and your family for the loss of your precious Thomas. As you know, put your trust and faith in God and He will get you through this. Sending lots of love & prayers your way.

    Courtney Goode
    Tyndall AFB, FL

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  25. Dear Melissa,

    What a strong woman in Christ you are. My heart is just broken for you and TJ! He was a childhood friend of mine. I am praying that God would continue to strengthen the both of you and that He would bind you together as one. Your little man has surely touched many lives! He truly is with Jesus healed and whole, perfectly beautiful and happy and peaceful! May God give you and TJ enduring comfort through this. Let Him carry you and grieve as you should grieve, the Lord will bring you both through this.

    Many blessings to you both?

    Charity Santiago (formerly Heffner)

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  26. May you feel the gift of the atonement in your lives as you begin to heal. What a precious promise we are given that families are forever. This is not goodbye, just see you later.
    Loves,
    A mommy who has also taken this journey.

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  27. What a beautiful tribute to Thomas and our heavenly Father. You are all in our hearts and on our minds during this time. Thank you for sharing Thomas with us and your journey. Praying God will give you comfort and strength.

    Brian, Lynne and Tessa Leftwich

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  28. HAd a heavy heart as I read this; it was a beautiful tribute to Thomas. You and you husband are in our thoughts and prayers. You and T.J. are beinng smiled down upon for your wonderful love of your beautiful little boy. Thank you for sharing your journey with uarms around you and your family. Baby Thomas there a lot of people who didn't get to meet you; but we miss yand love you.

    The Lee Family
    David, Kim, Heather and Hayden

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  29. Oh sweet Behm family, If only I had words for you right now. All I have are prayers. We think you are both amazing parents and we're so glad that Thomas is with the Lord. Praying for you with out ceasing!
    Mandy Garola

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  30. You will never know how much you have touched my life and many others. Your faith is unbelievable and so inspiring. As a mother I can't imagine what you are going through and I are praying for your strength and healing. You are a strong woman and a true inspiration.

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  31. Praying for you. So sorry for your loss. It breaks my heart when another baby is gone too soon.

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  32. Although I do not know you as friends, your journey has brought us very close as brothers and sisters in Christ. I can not imagine your pain but I have a Heavenly Father whose knows all too well the pain of losing a son. You will be in my prayers and my tears as you discover the faithfulness of God as most of us are never required to do. Thomas Tompkins(Nickie White's dad)

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  33. There are no words i could say to comfort you, but just know that we are praying for you and for God to bring you comfort!! Little Thomas has certainly touched my heart and truly has made me open my eyes. In his little life, through the love of his parents' words, he taught me to not take anything for granted! You, Dr. Behm have reminded me how awesome a great faith in our Lord can be. My family will be praying for you and your husband constantly! We send our love to you and are certainly grieving with you.
    The Gilbert Family

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  34. What a true inspiration and faithful servant you are! We heard about sweet Thomas through our small group and I have been following this blog daily and praying for your family. This story has inspired me so and given me a new outlook on life. Melissa and Tj, God chose you to be Thomas parents because of your strong faith and love. Know that he is safe in the arms of our Savoir this day!

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  35. Dr. Behm,
    My heart breaks for you and your family. You have been in my constant thoughts and prayers. I pray God comforts you through this difficult time.

    The Westendorf Family

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  36. I wish I had adequate words to express how sorry I am to hear about Thomas. I am so sorry. I pray for God to wrap His arms around you and TJ and for you to feel His comfort and strength during this difficult time. Mira Kimball

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  37. Dearest Behm family , I am so sorry for your loss . I think it is absolutely amazing how strong your faith is . There are people out there who get angry at god and push away but your faith stayed strong never shuddered and you clenched tighter . I along with several of my other friends that know you as our childrens pediatrician all cried when we heard about little Thomas . I will continue to pray for you all . I can't imagine how you feel right now . My heart goes out to you and your family your faith is such an inspiration & reminded us all that you can find comfort in the Lord ... (HUGS) We <3 you Dr. Behm

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  38. Very sorry to hear about your sweet Thomas. Praying for your family during this time of grieving & healing.
    Kalley, Knoxville, TN

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  39. Oh Melissa. Everything I want to say seems so inadequate. Thomas' story has touched SO many lives because of your beautiful words. He was a lucky little boy to have you as his mommy just as I am lucky to have you as my friend. You are an inspiration in faith, hope and love to us all. I pray that in time your heart will start to heal as well. All my love to you and TJ
    MER

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  40. Melissa- you may not remember me- Kelli Yancey- I was a Phi Mu at Auburn with you- pledge class of 94. I just want you to know that you are in my constant prayers. I am so very sorry for your loss. What a beautiful post to your precious son. Praise the Lord that he is safe in His arms and healed. Please know that your family is covered in prayer. I can barely type through the tears right now- my heart is broken for your family. You are an inspriation and the lives your family will impact through this loss will be many. To Him be the glory. Praying for you.

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  41. Dr. Behm and family ,
    No words to describe how sorry we are for your loss. You showed us all such grace and courage. May God comfort you and give you syrength during this time. We will keep you all in our thoughts and prayers.
    With love,
    The Lambros family

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  42. The Behm family is an inspiration. Your words give flight to all of our prayers. There is no end, only new beginnings.

    Love and strength---Ruth

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  43. Our family will be praying for you. We are so sorry for your loss.
    God bless!
    Kelly McAbee

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  44. Found this verses this morning: 2 Corinthians 4:16-18
    "That is why we never give up. Though our bodies are dying, our spirits are being renewed every day. For our present trials are small [know it doesn't fell that way] and won't last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them all and will last forever. So we don't look at the troubles we can see now; rather we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen. For the things we see will soon be gone, but the things we cannot see will last forever."

    Prayed for you many times during the night and so far this morning.
    Knowing God is faithful, even now-

    Tracy Hays

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  45. Your faith and your love has touched our family's heart so much. We are thinking of you, and we are so sorry for your loss.
    King, Kelly, Conor and Davis Evans

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  46. Melissa & TJ,
    I cannot imagine what you guys are going through... but you are right, sweet baby boy touched more people in two weeks than many do in an entire lifetime. Your faith is amazing. We are all praying for you. Much, much love - Meredith

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  47. John Lehotsky - Ft Myers, FLNovember 30, 2011 at 8:34 AM

    I am so sorry for your loss but I know too that you will be reunited someday and all the pain and sorrow will be replaced with joy and peace. God must have needed a special angel and he will continue to provide grace and comfort during your time of grief. We have been praying for God's will throughout this time and will continue to pray that His presence will strengthen your family and allow His will to be accomplished.

    With sad hearts,

    John (TJ's cousin) and Anne Lehotsky

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  48. I am sorry to hear about your loss. I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help ease your pain and provide comfort. Blessings to you!

    *For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. James 1.3

    Jacqueline Martin
    Easley, SC
    www.thethreelittlebirds.org

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  49. You all are a blessing and an inspiration so many and you are so right about Thomas' legacy...his life is more precious than we can even fathom right now. We are praying for you all constantly. much love and prayers!

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  50. I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your precious baby boy. May you be blessed with strength, comfort and peace during this difficult time.

    Amanda Hall
    Rochester, NY

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  51. We are so sorry, Melissa. What a beautiful tribute to your sweet Thomas. The hole is deep but God will fill it with his grace and love in time. We are thinking and praying for your family. Your strength in the storm of a lifetime is a huge inspiration to us all.

    love, Anna (Fuller) McBrayer

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  52. AS I read this post, I in awe of the FAith you and TJ have. I hope that GOD has placed his arms around you and loving you as I can NOT imagine what you are going through. I am praying for you both for HEALING of your broken heart-- I love u BOTH!!!

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  53. We are so sorry for your family's loss of precious baby Thomas. Our loved one will be present in our lives forever. Something good will happen tomorrow or the day after. Keep the faith and love will lead you through this pain. Our condolences.
    Van & Dai Pham

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  54. Melissa,

    I am humbled and inspired by your faith. You, TJ, and the rest of the family are in my prayers and thoughts daily.

    Much Love,

    Dana Putnam Burkhart

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  55. Thank You so much for allowing us to know Thomas like he was a member of our family! What an amazing little guy he is. You and your husband will be in our thoughts and prayers. Thomas has the Best babysitter right now until you are reunited with him one day. Jesus has him cradled in his arms♥ Tammie Butler (Corrie Gee's cousin)

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  56. Dr. Behm,
    I am so sorry to hear this very sad news. As my heart aches for you, I just wanted you to know that you have been such a blessing to me, Ciara, Lexi, & Jenna. I searched & searched trying to find a doctor that I could trust after being disappointed so badly by my Jenna's last doctor. I prayed for God to bring us to someone, & from the very first moment I met you I knew that you were going to be perfect for my girls. Like so many others, I am amazed by your strength & courage trough all of this & I too am honored to have shared in your sweet baby's journey. We will keep you in our prayers always. You are truly a remarkable person Melissa Behm. May God bless both you & TJ. 
    With Love, 
    Stephanie Brannen

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  57. You are truly an amazing family, thank you for sharing your journey. I cannot imagine your pain and sorrow, as many have said, your faith is truly inspirational. We have been praying for Thomas and your family and of course will continue to do so.
    You have helped and touched our family in so many ways.
    Love from the Baileys

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  58. that was beautiful , my heart hurts, your daddy and mommy are in our prayers and in our hearts and so are you thomas you touch your aunt henny like nothing ever before , i miss you along with everyone else ,love ya aunt henny

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  59. I am so humbled by your blog. Dr. Behm, you have touched so many of our hearts, your strength and faith is beyond comprehension. I have known you to be a wonderful, caring doctor, now I know that you are much more than that. You are a wonderful person, and I thank you for sharing your life with us. Not many people would have been as strong as you have been throughout this entire journey. I know that strength has come from Almighty God and I know you are grateful for Him giving that to you. I will continue to pray for you each and every day as you continue to heal from your broken heart.

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  60. Melissa,
    I'm so sorry for the loss of baby Thomas. We will contiune to pray for your family. Thank you for sharing his journey, it really has touched so many people.
    Love, Abby (Beck) Mitchell

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  61. As always Melissa, you show such grace. I have had such a heavy heart since hearing of the loss of precious Thomas, and upon reading your last post I feel am so comforted. For you to comfort me during this time is amazing, and shows how healing your faith is. Thomas will always be in my heart, he will never be forgotten. Praying that you and TJ can heal your own broken hearts. I hope it comforts you to know that Thomas will forever watch over you. All my love and prayers.

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  62. TJ & Melissa

    I can not say what we are feeling right now. But what I can say is that we are so sorry, and Melissa had written how humble you have become because of this experience, I must say your little guy has humbled us all. I know Mike & Eileen are on their way, even though we are not there know that if we can do anything please let us know. Thomas will be forever with us.

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  63. Melissa, there are no words to express how sad this story of baby Thomas has made me..Although I've only known you for a short while, I feel I've known you much longer. I'm sure your sweet Thomas knew he had such an amazing, wonderful mother. I have been reading your blog since Meredith and Heather have shared it with me, and I have been praying for Thomas, you and your husband everyday!! I will continue to pray for healing and comfort from our GOD and strength for you to face the next day. Thank you for sharing Thomas' story...every Thanksgiving I will give "Thanks" for Thomas!! God Bless you and your entire family and I send you love and prayers. Shari Wilson

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  64. We will continue to pray for you and your family. Thank you for so generously sharing Thomas with so many. I have learned so much from him (and his incredible mama) in the last two weeks.

    Maria Sayers

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  65. Still thinking of y'all! Call me when y'all get a chance and want to have dinner.
    -Pat

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  66. I know I am a stranger to you, and a stranger to losing a child. I can't imagine the pain you must be dealing with right now. Thank you for sharing your struggle and your strength. I pray for the continued healing of your family.

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  67. You don't know me but we are sisters in Christ. I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious son. I will be praying for your family and that you would find comfort and strength in your grief. *hugs*

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  68. Owen, Claire and Harris's cousin passed away In CICU at Egleston a few ago weeks at 3 months old from complications of HLHS. Since I heard of Thomas's death all I can think of is Thomas and Martin playing together with their perfect hearts in Heaven. Love, the Orsini Family.

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  69. We've been praying for Thomas and for your whole family, Melissa. What great faith you have and what a beautiful reminder you've spoken that Thomas is in the loving, mighty, powerful arms of God, who knows & loves him SO much! I know that must be quite comforting right now... Know we will continue to pray for you & your husband as you go through this tremendous time of grieving. -Catherine & Brian Baugh (Dudley's sister)

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  70. Dear Melissa,

    Although I have not seen you in many years, I have kept up with you and TJ through family and friends. You and your family have been in my prayers, and my heart was touched by the beautiful words you wrote to your son. He was a precious gift on loan from God, even if for such a short while. Thomas is among your special blessings...the Lord has also blessed you with a strong faith that will give you peace in knowing that Thomas is now safe and healthy in the arms of Jesus.

    God Bless!
    Ellen Bradley

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  71. Melissa,
    You are an amazing person and I hope one day I can give you a giant hug for reminding me of what is most important in this world and beyond. Your faith in God makes my faith even stronger and I thank you for sharing your journey with all of us, you are an incredible mother and person. Emily (Harper) Gray

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  72. For baby Thomas:

    http://youtu.be/VqaBof47pmY

    Godspeed.

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  73. Dearest Melissa and T.J.

    As so many have said, thank you for allowing us the privilege of walking this journey with you--praying and getting to know Thomas through your joy, your words and even those precious pictures of his fuzzy feet and now through your tears and sorrow.

    Isaiah 49:16 says that we are engraved on the palm of God's hand.

    Since June God has led me to pray for you claiming that "He was holding you all in the palm of His Hand."

    He was and He still is! The God of all creation, the God who humbled himself to come to earth as a baby to die for our sins, the God who will one day restore all creation is certainly a Big Enough God to be holding you, T.J. and Thomas together in the Palm of His Hand even now and forever!

    With deep love and admiration,
    Debbie

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  74. You are in our hearts and prayers. The Hearn family, Matt, Lori, Emma, and Jack.

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  75. Melissa and TJ:
    We send our condolences to you and your family during this time. The grace and strength in Christ you have displayed during these past few months have been an inspiration to countless people. Please know that we are continuing to lift you, TJ and Thomas in our prayers.

    The Pulcini Family

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  76. Dr. Behm- You have no idea what a testimony for the Lord this blog has been. Your love for Thomas, your family and Jesus Christ has been so truly revealed through each and every word He has placed on your heart. Your precious entry that Thomas is Healed could have only been guided by the Holy Spirit as He helps you find beauty from ashes. God placed Thomas in your care and family as part of His almighty plan, and He will bless your obedience and submission. We are so thankful to have you for a doctor. "And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus" Phil 4:7 Allison Kelly

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  77. Melissa,
    I haven't seen you in quite some time but I have been keeping up wtih you reading your blog and facebook posts, and you and TJ are such truly amazing people and your strength is inspiring. I am so sorry for your loss and I am praying for you and your family.
    Monique Maines

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  78. Melissa,
    I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers for God to hold you in His hands as you walk through this dificult time.
    Chris and Carrie

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  79. From a Mommy who has given up 2 children to their Heavenly home I can say with certainty that even though the pain is a huge hole and your heart is forever torn into, Gods grace, love, peace and comfort can fill it to complete. It is like a balm of soothing ointment that allows you to make it for just a few more hours... one hour at a time... Our God is so incredible. He made us and all of our emotions and feelings, He gave them to us! and He is big enough to hear our upsetness. He is close to the broken hearted, He holds us in His mighty arms when we feel we can't go on... Experience it as it comes; all the feelings, and then give them back to God, He will hold them for you. Melissa, it is something you will not get over but you will be held through it and suddenly you will realize that the days continue... and NEVER will your sweet boy be forgotten... those tiny feet, skinny little legs... and atrocious booties will be remembered. His precious spirit will always be close at heart! God bless you and keep you... you are not alone!

    " The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are
    crushed is spirit" Psalms 34:18

    " ...the Lord's unfailing love surrounds the man who trusts in Him"
    Psalms 32: 10b

    May God sustain you both along the road ahead for you.

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  80. We have a hole in our hearts for you.. Your strength and faith tremendous. Praying for your family

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  81. Melissa and TJ,
    Thank you so much for sharing your journey with Thomas. Although it has been years since I have seen you both, it has been a way to feel connected to you and support you. I am inspired by the love you have for Thomas and the hope your faith brings. It is a reminder to me that with love comes suffering, but God brings us hope in the midst of it all.

    You are amazing people! To see God's healing hand in all of this is truly a grace. Praying that God will comfort and heal your hearts! Melissa, I pray that God will give you the grace to continue to share your heart with the many parents and children you help as a pediatrician.

    With much love,
    Jaime Pham

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  82. Oh, an add on to the previous post... I LOVE the booties :)...

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  83. Melissa and TJ -

    I don't know you well but am a patient of Melissa's. In reading your posts I have cried along with you and my heart is broken for you. But Thomas and the both of you have inspired me to no end. I admire you all for your strength, courage, and most of all, your faith. You have kept your eye on God and His plan for you as well as Thomas. You're exactly right that Thomas is in a better place now than we can imagine, and you will spend eternity holding and loving him - no question. Words cannot express how sorry I am for you both. Melissa you have cared so well for my son, Gil, and we think so highly of you. We will continue to pray for all three of you.

    Warmly,

    Lindsay Thomas

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  84. Dear Dr. Behm and TJ,

    I can't begin to describe my sympathies for you. I have been so uplifted by your spiritual faith. You have all fought a good fight. Thomas already knows how much you love him, and now he is experiencing God's love. My prayer is that God will shine his grace and love on you, your family and friends. You have all made such a difference in so many lives.

    Paula Smoak

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  85. Dear Melissa and TJ,
    Heather and I hold you both in our prayers and hope His grace surrounds you on every step of your healing journey.
    Keith and Heather Seibert

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  86. You said it well, sweet mother. Having lost our 3 year old 31 years ago, I can attest to the fact that grief never leaves entirely. The memory of the day she went home to be with the Lord will hit me by surprise like a Mack truck, and I will be right back there. But His Grace is sufficient, and He is love, and life goes back to normal. We live to be reunited with Him and all those who have gone before. And it will be so sweet.

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  87. I just cannot think of any words to say other than I am so sorry for the loss of your Sweet Baby Thomas. We have been praying for you, TJ and Thomas and will continue to do so.

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  88. Words cannot express how my heart aches for you! You have been such an inspiration! Thomas was brought into this world for a reason...i know he has made me stop and pray hourly for 2 wks...i have been in my bible more than ever! Thank you for sharing your journey with us! All my love and prayers continue to go your way!

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  89. May GOD hold you in the palm of HIS hand.

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  90. Praying for you all!! May God wrap you up in his arms and hold you all during your time of sorrow!! Your sweet angel will always be with you!! God Bless you all!!

    Courtney Bucknam
    Leesville SC

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  91. May you be surrounded in a warm and healing light.

    Love to you and yours.

    Alison

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  92. Dear Dr. Behm,
    We are overcome with emotion for you and your family, and in awe of your grace, faith, and courage. Thank you for everything you have done for all of us, and for sharing your journey with us. You are truly an inspiration and honestly the strongest, most amazing woman I have ever met. You, T.J., and Thomas are in our hearts and prayers.
    all our love - Holly, Jonathan, and Eloise Goldstein

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  93. Dr. Behm,
    My children are patients of Dr. Stone's, but we met you once in the office, I believe the week before you left to have Thomas. I have been following your blog nearly daily, and the grace and strength that has come through in your posts is simply inspirational. My heart is so saddened by the loss of your baby boy. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers as you move forward through this journey. God Bless.
    The Smith Family

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  94. What a beautiful letter to your little boy, Melissa! I have no doubt that Jesus Himself has read it to Thomas, as He cradles your precious little one in His loving arms... tears in His eyes for the pain in the hearts of those left behind. It isn't the first time that a tiny baby has had such an unbelievable impact of love on so many people.... Jesus knows.
    Sending you prayers and so much love,
    Donna & Bill Huffman

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  95. The letter to your strong and brave baby boy seems as if it comes from someone who majored in literature, not medicine. The unbelievable quality of care you provide to our community's own children pales in comparison to the perfect mothering instincts and love you showed during this most tying time with your baby boy. The thoroughness and deepness of your love and care was absolutely felt and helped comfort him while on earth. You will be with him again in time.

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  96. Dear Melissa and TJ,
    I don't know either of you. I found your blog on Abbie McCullough's Facebook page. I just began reading it tonight and am so sorry that I did not start earlier or else I would have been praying for you these last couple of weeks. I can't tell you how sad I am for you but your faith is simply amazing. May God hold your hands through this unimaginably difficult time and help you find peace as you mourn your tiny angel. I will keep your family in my prayers.

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  97. Melissa and TJ -
    You have been in my prayers these past two weeks. Thank you for sharing this journey with us; your faith is a blessing to so many others. I am praying that you feel the love of God support you going forward.
    With love,
    Anne Waters Jackson

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  98. What a beautiful message to Thomas. You all have been in my thoughts at prayers daily and will continue to be. Your faith, grace and courage through this diffult time has been a true inspiration to me and many others. As difficult as this situation is, it's comforting to know that Thomas is in such a beautiful place now. Praying that God will comfort you. Much love to you, Ginna

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  99. Melissa, My heart breaks for you, but I totally understand how precious even days can be with your child. I am so very proud to call you a friend, but am heartbroken that you now join the "Angel Mommies". It will be the the title that you will be proudest of in your life. Being "Isaac's Mommy" has taught me so many lessons! As the song says... There is no sudden healing... but this is what it is to be held.... God's palm is mighty and you're resting in it. Thank you so much for being so very good to us when we were letting our Angel go... for shedding tears with us.... now as I write this I am shedding them for you... but not for Thomas, as he is perfect now and in a perfect place. I love you!!!
    Love, Megan Bush

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  100. Maggie &amp; Matt GignilliatDecember 1, 2011 at 10:28 PM

    Dear Melissa & TJ,
    Your letter to Thomas was so inspiring and showed that your faith is strong. God is amazing to give us strength to go through things that we never think we could handle. Thank you for showing us all that your faith is stronger than your grief. May God bless you and comfort you during the hardest time of your life.
    With prayers lifted up,
    Maggie and Matt Gignilliat

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  101. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. You are an amazing person... We love you! Allison, Ross, and Lily Etheridge

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  102. Melissa and TJ,
    Your combination of love, faith, and courage is amazing. You are the perfect example of what a mom and dad should be. We hurt for your loss and pray that your hearts are comforted.
    Robert DiGiuseppe

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  103. Melissa and TJ,
    I am saying a prayer for you this morning and for healing of your hearts. Thank you for sharing with us your journey, your faith and your sweet love for eachother.
    Nancy Scott (Mud Run parter from Augusta)

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  104. Melissa, TJ and Family,
    You are the strongest family I know. Your faith, strength, love and courage is incredible. You probably do not know, but you have given a gift to so many by sharing your journey. Thank you for the reminding us all about love and faith and how precious life really is. Tayloe, Olivia and I continue to pray for you all. God bless you!

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  105. Melissa,
    Your strength, courage, and faith amaze me. You have touched so many lives with your blog, and it has made an unbelievable impact on my life. You are a wonderful person, with such a strong and unwaivering faith, and I thank you for sharing your journey, I don't know many people who would have been as strong as you have been throughout this past two weeks. It is amazing how a little boy can touch so many lives, and make us better people in his two weeks of life. I will never forget Thomas! I will continue to pray for you and TJ each and every day. May God bless you and continue to give you courage for the days ahead.

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  106. I am a friend of Sarah's and she shared the sad news of your loss with me. As a Mommy to a 20 month old, I can only imagine the hurt and sadness you must be feeling. My prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. I pray you find comfort in the Lord and know that one day you will hold your sweet baby Thomas again in heaven. God Bless you and sweet dreams precious angel.

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  107. Emmie (Sisson) WalkerDecember 3, 2011 at 3:46 PM

    Melissa and TJ,
    We were so greatly saddened to hear about your loss. I don't think I have ever witnessed such an unyielding strength and faith in God. While Thomas was only with you both for a brief time, know that God gave him the most loving, courageous, faithful and strong parents and he was so very blessed to have you both. You are in our thoughts and prayers during this unimaginably difficult time and we love you! Even though Dan and I are all the way up in NJ, please do not hesitate to let us know if there is anything we can do for you and TJ. My parents aren't that far away and are there if you need anything.
    Love,
    Emmie & Dan Walker (and Robert & Michelle Sisson)

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  108. You are truly inspirational and amazingly strong! Praying for peace and comfort for you and your family! Thank you for sharing this experience with us.
    I wish there was something I could say or do to help. Will keep you all in my prayers! -Jessica Magnusson

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  109. TJ and Melissa,
    Thank you for sharing Thomas' story with us. What a privilege to get a glimpse into your hearts and hear about his courageous days on earth. We are so thankful that you trust in a sovereign God who only is able to comfort you now. Our family is praying for you.
    Will, Kelly, Caleb and Cameron Hall
    (Lee's brother)

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